Toxic Help , Backhanded Compliments: Negging, Passive-aggressive Devaluation

Negging or backhanded compliments are repeated and escalating insults and personal attacks disguised as compliments or even as flattery: compliment what you do but attack who you are. They are meant to leverage your vulnerabilities and push your buttons. They can incorporate public shaming. They adversely affect self-esteem. Sadistic help is succor or advice that comes replete with extreme devaluation disguised as "tough love". Both involve brutal, dysempathic honesty and passive-aggression. Both are forms of intermittent reinforcement. Unfavorably comparing you to other people and insults disguised as collective criticism (criticizing you - not your actions). For example: • “Well, don’t you look fabulous? I would never have the courage to wear my hair like that.” • “I’m so proud of you for quitting smoking! Too bad you already have all those little lines on your face.” • “Congratulations for winning the ice dancing competition! Maybe some day you’ll give a real sport a try.” • In some culture being overweight is considered very attractive! • People are attracted to intelligence, not necessarily to good looks. • They are leveraging your narcissism and paranoia to play you for a fool • Let me fix this for you. You have never been good with your hands. • Being a good parent is not everything in life. • Don't try to do it. You are not good at it. • I don't mind the costs of being with you. That's what friends are for. • This dress would look fabulous on you once you had lost some weight. Add you own examples. Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60...