Durable Skills: Feedback with Purpose

00:00 Durable Skill Feedback 01:39 Set Your Feedback Goal 04:48 Avoid Emotional Catharsis 08:08 Feedback Triggers Defensiveness 10:07 Sponsor SERP API 11:13 Models SBI and Four As 21:28 Receiving Feedback and Growth How to Give Feedback That Actually Works (Science-Based) Feedback is one of the hardest things most of us do in our careers—and one of the easiest to do badly. I'm Jonathan Cutrell, and in this episode of Developer Tea, I break down why most feedback fails before it even starts: we give it to relieve our own frustration instead of to drive a real change. I'll walk you through behavior-based feedback, the SBI model (and the one piece I think it's missing), Netflix's Four A's, and a simple technique for staying out of defensive mode when you're the one on the receiving end. Whether you're a manager trying to coach your team or an engineer who dreads the "can we talk for 10 minutes?" message, this is the framework that turns feedback from something contentious into a genuine pathway for growth. Subscribe for more durable skills to future-proof your career, and sign up for our new newsletter, The Tea Break, at developertea.com! 🚀