Afraid to Speak Up For Yourself? How to Talk True - Terri Cole

Your phone starts ringing. You look down. It’s your friend who talks and talks and talks. You sigh. You are in the middle of work and do not have the bandwidth for their emotional dump. Instead of picking up the phone and saying you are unavailable, you let it go to voicemail. ______________ A friend of yours lives nearby. They assume you don’t mind giving them a ride when you go out together. But actually, you do mind. You just don’t say anything about it because you don’t know how. You become more resentful each time you pick up your friend and feel like you can’t leave when you want because you’re their ride home. _______________ If either of these situations sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life. Grab the free guide for this episode here: https://www.terricole.com/talk-true-g... Time Stamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:15 - Why do we struggle to tell the truth about how we feel? 5:19 - Client example: check-in before emotional dumping 7:26 - Friend example: lending car & no gas fill-up 9:09 - Looking at this learned behavior 10:50 - Setting healthy boundaries 13:40 - Learning the truth is embarrassing 15:50 - Conclusion If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos    • 4 Top Reasons You’re Not Setting Healthy B...   - 4 Top Reasons You're Not Setting Healthy Boundaries    • Boundary Setting Success: How You Say It M...   - Boundary-Setting Success: How You Say It Matters    • How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boun...   - How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boundary Violations    • Want More Fulfilling Relationships? 3 Tips...   - Getting Your Emotional Needs Met    • The Emotional Rollercoaster of Boundary Se...   - The Emotional Rollercoaster of Boundary Setting ABOUT TERRI COLE Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: https://www.terricole.com/ig Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm Newsletter: https://www.terricole.com/newsletter RESOURCES Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust. #terricoleshow #boundaries #communicationskills