4132 Been There, Dump That

You know the phrase, "Been there, done that." It's the verbal shrug we give when something no longer impresses us, no longer scares us, or no longer has anything left to teach us. To put a twist on the phrase to serve you better, why not enhance it: been there, dump that. Because here's something we never sit around and talk about when it comes to growth — it's not just about picking things up. Those new habits, new skills, new mindsets. Growth is just as much about what you're willing to put down. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com The Backpack Nobody Told You to Unpack Picture your life as a hike. Every year, every failed relationship, every job you hated, every version of yourself you've outgrown — you didn't leave those behind. You packed them. Zipped the bag. Kept walking. Some of what's in there is useful. Lessons. Scar tissue that turned into wisdom. Keep those. But some of it is just weight. The old grudge. The identity you built around being "the responsible one" or "the screwup" or "the one who always gets left." The rule you made up when you were twenty-three that you've never once revisited: I'm not the kind of person who asks for help. I always have to prove myself twice as hard. If I'm not exhausted, I'm not working hard enough. You didn't decide to carry that today. You decided to carry it once, years ago, and then forgot you were still carrying it. Been there. Time to dump that. Why We Keep the Weight If it's just weight, why not put it down? Because familiar weight feels safer than an empty bag. There's a strange comfort in old pain. It's furnished. You know where the exits are. A new season — one without the grudge, without the old story about who you are — is unfurnished. Unknown. And unknown, even when it's lighter, can feel more frightening than heavy and familiar. So we keep hauling around identities we've outgrown because at least we know how to be that person. We'd rather be a tired version of someone we recognize than a rested version of someone we don't yet know. That's not laziness. That's just how people work. But it's worth naming, because you can't put down a weight you've convinced yourself isn't there. The K.I.S.S. ~ Been there, dump that! The Difference Between Failure and Defeat Here's a distinction worth sitting with: failure is an event. Defeat is a decision. Failure says, "That didn't work." Defeat says, "So nothing will." One is data. The other is a lid you put on your own future. Most of what's in that backpack isn't failure — it's old defeat, dressed up as identity. You didn't just lose that opportunity; somewhere along the way you decided you're the kind of person who loses opportunities. That's the part worth dumping. Not the memory. The conclusion. What Dumping Actually Looks Like Dumping isn't a call to forget your past or pretend the hard stuff didn't happen. Dumping isn't deleting. It's sorting. Keep the lesson. Drop the verdict. "I got burned trusting too fast" is a lesson. "I can't trust people" is a verdict. Keep the first. Dump the second. Keep the scar. Drop the script. You're allowed to remember what happened without letting it write your next ten years. Keep the growth. Drop the grudge. Especially the grudge against yourself. You were doing the best you could with what you knew then. "Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal." (Philippians 3:13-14) Notice it doesn't say the past disappears. It says you stop straining backward so you have both hands free to reach forward. The Lighter Way Forward You don't need a bigger bag. You need a lighter one. So take inventory. What are you still hauling that already did its job? What identity, grudge, or old verdict have you been carrying out of habit rather than necessity? Been there. You learned what you needed to learn there. Now dump that — and see how much lighter you feel so you can go in peace. "Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!" #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation 🔔 Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will discuss your specific situation while gaining tools and strategies to move you forward. (https://form.jotform.com/62988215824163) 🙏 Create Your Now TV on Pray.com (https://pray.com) 🎥 Create Your Now on YouTube (   / createyournow  ) 🎧 Create Your Now on Spotify, Pandora, and Audible. 🎶 Create Your Now on iHeart Radio (http://www.iheart.com/show/263-Create...) ✍️ [email protected] Instagram @CreateYourNow @KristianneWargo Twitter...