【恋愛】カップルの連絡頻度問題について、物申したい

As a couple, it's honestly weird when the frequency of communication varies before and after you start dating. But I don't mind if the frequency of communication remains consistent from before you start dating, because the other person is dating you knowing that. I've been in relationships for a long time too, but I've never neglected to keep in touch. That's because, in a situation where you can't be together every day like in marriage or living together, these are the only daily responsibilities you can fulfill for your partner. Say you love each other when you see each other? Hugging each other when you see each other? Is it enough to just be there for them when they're going through a hard time? I don't think love is something that can be dismissed so easily. Dating is merely a formality, and trust and a sense of security are built through small daily accumulations. I couldn't care less whether the person who doesn't contact you is independent or dependent. Even so, if you choose to date, and you have a concept of responsibility, what would you be doing without doing something this simple? When you can see each other, only temporary desires and emotions are fulfilled. I think it's trust and security that can be built when you can't see each other. As I mentioned at the beginning, I can understand if the person was "consistent and didn't contact each other even before you started dating." If you fell in love and chose that person, then it's their fault. But if the inconsistent and changeable person is eager when it's convenient for them and doesn't feed the fish they've caught, then no matter how much they talk about independence, they're nothing more than a bundle of ego. In the first place, it's a mystery why people who want constant communication and reporting are the majority don't try to date people with the same values. No matter how you look at it, it's clear that it's inefficient and will lead to arguments, and I think it's understandable to some extent even before you start dating. Putting aside mental health issues and clingy people, I can't help but see people who choose inefficient partners and try to get their way as "idiots who pretend to be independent." Why do they seek freedom yet choose relationships and partners that restrict them? Are they okay with having to adapt to others? There's nothing more presumptuous than wanting to change someone. [Please follow me on various social media platforms] ▼Twitter (60,000 followers)   / tatarianaster_7   ▼TikTok (45,000 followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@tatarianaster... ▼Instagram (5,000 followers) https://instagram.com/tatarianaster__... ▼note https://note.com/tatarianaster_7/n/nd... #contactfrequency #couples #romance #romancecommon #romanticpsychology