Interview with Michael Webb: Understanding the 'Psychological Games' Couples Play With Each Other

Ever find yourself in the same frustrating argument with someone, especially your spouse— even though it starts off innocent and you swear this time it’ll go differently? But somehow, it spirals into a familiar mess? That’s not just bad luck. You might be stuck in a psychological game. Psychological games are repetitive patterns of hidden communication people play with each other, often unconsciously. They seem harmless on the surface, but they end with someone feeling hurt, guilty, or angry — just like before. These games follow a pattern: A hidden motive or unspoken message A predictable sequence of interactions A negative payoff (emotional discomfort or conflict) They’re not about fun — more like emotional traps that we fall into, often learned in childhood, resulting in confusion, hurt feelings and deep seated resentment. Transactional Analysis, developed by psychiatrist Eric Berne, is a theory of communication and personality. In TA, our interactions are seen as “transactions” between different parts of ourselves: 👶 Child (emotions, creativity, needs, or rebellion) 👨‍👩‍👧 Parent (rules, judgments, values — often inherited from authority figures) 🧑 Adult (rational, in-the-moment decision-making) When people interact, they’re often unconsciously switching between these ego states. Games happen when there’s a mismatch or hidden motive behind a transaction — for example, someone may act like they want help (Adult to Adult), but are actually seeking to feel victimized (Child to Parent). Today Michael Webb shares how couples subconsciously participate in these games, especially those dealing with infidelity or addiction. #samshealingpodcast #betrayaltrauma #samuelhealing #affairhelp #maritalinfidelity #maritalinfidelityrecovery #overcominginfidelity #affairrecoverycoaching #healingaffairscoaching #infidelityrecovery #affairrecovery #healingaffairs #afteranaffair #samaffairrecovery #samuelaffairrecovery #samueltonyfetchel #samuelovercominginfidelity #overcominginfidelity #healingafteranaffair #maritalinfidelityrecoveryhelp #affairrecoveryhelp #affairhelpers