Перестаньте быть УДОБНЫМ — и люди начнут вас уважать | Аксакал Аскар

There are kind, helpful people, yet no one appreciates them. They help everyone, refuse no one, agree with everyone, and try to please everyone. And for some reason, such good, obliging people are so often disrespected, and sometimes even walked all over. Old Askar-aksakal knows the bitter truth: the more convenient you are for everyone, the less they respect you. A convenient person is not appreciated—they are used. Kind, gentle Zhandos came to the aksakal: “I help everyone, I refuse no one. At work, they blame everything on me, friends remember when they need something, relatives sit on my neck. I am convenient for everyone. But they don’t respect me, and they don’t even say thank you. Why?” And the aksakal revealed to him: he himself, with his own kindness, taught everyone not to appreciate himself. This story explains why being too quick to refuse devalues ​​your help, why people sense fear, not strength, behind servility, and the difference between kindness and servility. Stop being convenient—but don't stop being kind. Listen to the end. ❓ Is everyone taking advantage of you too because you can't say no? Write in the comments: "Learning to say no." 🔔 Subscribe to the "Aksakal Askar" channel so you don't lose track of our hearthside conversations. Here, you are respected for who you are, and there's always tea, a kind word, and an old man's truth for you.