Full Episode: I Asked My Mom If She Regrets How She Raised Us

For most of her life, my mom believed she was doing what a good parent was supposed to do: work hard, provide, sacrifice, and keep going no matter how difficult life became. But survival came with a cost. In this episode of The Jeremy Kofi Convo, I sit down with my mother, Vida, for one of the most honest conversations we've ever had. We talk about the anger she carried for years, the pressure of motherhood, the mistakes she believes she made, and how a life-changing stroke forced her to confront parts of herself she had spent decades ignoring. This conversation isn't about blame. It's about understanding. It's about what happens when parents are surviving instead of living. It's about the emotional weight many African and immigrant families carry. And it's about the difficult truth that providing for your children and being emotionally present for them are not always the same thing. We discuss: • The realities of motherhood and sacrifice • Growing up in survival mode • Why she was so hard on her children • The impact of unresolved pain • How her stroke changed her perspective on life • Learning to love yourself after decades of putting everyone else first • Healing the relationship between parent and child Whether you're a parent, a child trying to understand your parents, or someone navigating healing within your own family, this conversation is for you. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it and join the conversation in the comments below. Subscribe for more conversations on identity, culture, emotional intelligence, personal growth, and the human experience. Follow us on instagram: @thejeremykoficonvo and tiktok @jeremykofi #TheJeremyKofiConvo #AfricanParents #GenerationalTrauma #Healing #Motherhood #Parenting #MentalHealth #SelfLove #FamilyHealing #ImmigrantParents #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #MotherSon #AfricanFamily #HealingJourney