Bathhouses and Cruising

Long before the days of Grindr and the internet, the gay scene was largely underground. Gay and bi men had to find creative ways to connect in discreet yet relatively safe spaces. For many, the locals baths - or bathhouses- were a sanctuary where you could be yourself and meet other guys who were interested in both sexual and friendly connection. Meanwhile, cruising spots were known public spaces where men met for casual encounters. Yet for decades, the baths were routinely raided and became a battleground for the fight for queer rights and the gay liberation movement. In today’s episode of #GayMenGoingDeeper, Michael is talking with long-time writer, activist, and educator Tim McCaskell about bathhouses and cruising. Together they’ll share personal stories while exploring topics such as: 👉🏼 What really goes on in a bathhouse? 👉🏼 Why are they important to our history and culture? 👉🏼 Are they still relevant today in a world dominated by apps? 👉🏼 What are the risks? 👉🏼 Tips for making the most of your visit Whether you enjoy the bathhouse scene or not, this episode will shed light on the sociological and historical significance of these queer spaces from the perspective of two men of two different generations. 0:00 Introduction 2:36 - Definitions 6:40 - Our first times 15:17 - Our culture and community 24:14 - Relevancy today 31:16 - Hierarchies 44:16 - Cruising 50:10 - Risks 58:10 - Tips TODAY'S GUEST: Tim McCaskell https://btlbooks.com/authors/view/tim... TODAY'S HOST: Michael DiIorio ‪@WellismoCoaching‬ https://www.wellismo.com   / wellismo_coach   10 Tips for Making the Most of Your Bathhouse Experience: https://www.wellismo.com/bathhouse-ba... Sexual Empowerment 101: https://learn.wellismo.com/ ►► Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/qui... ►► Take our "Building Better Relationships" course for gay men: https://gaymensbrotherhood.thinkific.... ►► or Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community (which includes access to both our courses): https://gaymengoingdeeper.com/ ►► SUPPORT THE SHOW:   / gaymengoingdeeper   ►PODCAST: Wanna listen but not watch? Check out the podcast version: https://www.gaymensbrotherhood.com/ga... Welcome to Gay Men Going Deeper, a YouTube series where your hosts Calan Breckon, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio talk about all things personal development, mental health and sexuality. Join the free Private Facebook community:   / gaymensbrotherhood   SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram:   / gaymensbrotherhood   Twitter:   / brotherhood_gay   Website: https://www.gaymengoingdeeper.com HOSTS: CALAN - https://www.CalanBreckon.com/ MATT - https://www.mattlandsiedel.com/ MICHAEL - https://www.wellismo.com/ ABOUT: This is a conscious community for gay men to connect with each other on the journey of healing from shame and becoming more authentic and aligned to their truth. We aim to offer inspiration, support, connection, healing, and a safe space to show up just as you are. Our vision for the members is to learn to feel more comfortable showing up vulnerably so deeper intimacy can be established in our community. We dream of a gay community where everyone can feel more connected to one another in more ways than just superficial and we can feel less lonely and have deeper connections to one another. ► Join 1000's of gay men in building a supportive community: https://gay-mens-brotherhood.ck.page/...