СТАНЬ ЖЕЛАННЫМ и НЕЗАМЕНИМЫМ в отношениях! Кто ты: Инфантил или Взрослый?

00:00 Introduction 02:28 A pleasant person. What is he like? 05:57 How to become a pleasant person? 14:10 Our inner child A large number of stresses and problems in life force us to perceive relationships with other people as a resource, where the other person becomes a source of energy for us. The more interesting, dynamic, and varied our life, and the greater the burden on us, or the less developed our basic mental skills, the more often we approach the point where our resource limit is depleted. If we are in the "positive" state, we have a lot of strength and energy, and we can give in relationships. If we are exhausted, tired, or in the "negative" state, then we want to take in relationships. When we are exhausted, that's when we become unpleasant, i.e., capable only of taking. Being rude to your wife/husband, snapping, whining, complaining, ignoring each other, showing a lack of love, fatigue—all of this is a sign that you've run out of energy. Such a person is unpleasant. No one wants them. They can only be tolerated. What kind of person is pleasant, and what kind of person does everyone want? Generous and generous, giving, resourceful, someone who has something to take. Easy-going, cheerful, positive, patient, helpful—in other words, someone who has enough resources. In other words, someone whose resources never run out. What kind of person is this? They're adults. We can regulate and manage our own resources. It's within our power. What does it take to become a pleasant person in a relationship? Relationship Playlist    • Отношения   1. You have to want it. Understand that you are responsible for creating the atmosphere in the relationship and should strive to have the resources to support it. Nice Person Manifesto: BY ENTERING INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PERSON, I VOLUNTARILY TAKE ON MYSELF THE RESPONSIBILITY OF MAKING THIS PERSON WELL WITH ME IN THE RELATIONSHIP. THIS MEANS THAT I WILL NOT BE CONCERNED, WILL NOT SPREAD NEGATIVITY, AND TO DO SO I WILL TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND DEMONSTRATE MAXIMUM TRAINING OF BASIC MENTAL SKILLS, BE RESPONSIBLE FOR MY NEGATIVE PHYSICAL SENSATIONS (FATIGUES    • 🔋 Потребности человека: узнай и удовлетвор...  ), FOR MY EMOTIONS (BE AWARE AND EXPRESS THEM CORRECTLY    • Эмоции: функции, интенсивность, базовые эм...  , AND COMMUNICATE COMPETENTLY    • Отношения: виды, различия. Основы коммуник...   . And be responsible for your thoughts. THE IMPORTANT POINT IS THAT THIS IS AN ADEQUATE, INDEPENDENT PERSON WITH WHOM YOU REALLY BENEFIT FROM HAVING A RELATIONSHIP. MEANING, THEY GIVE YOU SOMETHING VERY SIGNIFICANT. FOR EXAMPLE, THEY DO NOT SUBJECT YOU TO VIOLENCE + GIVE YOU A LOT OF NEW EXPERIENCE. Important: this should only be done for the sake of someone with whom you contribute equally to the relationship. Signs of an infantile (unpleasant) person: you hate everyone around you, blaming them for your negative emotions, picking on them, feeling angry, criticizing, and finding fault – they hate you, finding fault with you. You have bad relationships with people, everything becomes very difficult and bad, there are constant conflicts, and you don't get what you want. Signs of an adult (pleasant in relationships): you strive to connect with people with all your might, you are kind to them, you gently accept their shortcomings, you treat them kindly, you don't isolate yourself from them, you support them. You treat yourself kindly and gently, you stop hating yourself, everyone loves you, you get what you want in life, and you even have fun. ____________________________________________ I invite you to my second channel on Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/strl If my videos were helpful to you and you'd like to thank me, you can make a donation: 1. https://donatepay.ru/don/streletskaya 2. Yandex wallet: 410014011220528 3. Bitcoin: 14WckknYyqmewLgyQ1Vnvt52arURkqryQ2 4.   / strelochka